I don't know how others with cancer feel but me, I dislike being pitied when someone finds out my cancer diagnosis. I "hate" hearing the clucking sounds which inevitably follow and are usually from those who actually could care less, yet want to show concern.
I have breast cancer. It came as a shock to me. I'm a bit frightened at the pathology report as well as facing 16 + 4 external beam radiation treatments as some of you are aware. Will I get through it? Yep. Will I have the support of close friends and close family? Yep. Will it "take care" of the cancer? Don't know.
I have gifted and caring physicians and staff taking care of me. I have food on the table, a roof over my head, clothes on my back, a husband (for 40-plus years) who cares for me without complaint, a caring and concerned daughter, money to pay bills. All of these blessings are by the grace of God who loves me unconditionally. I simply cannot feel sorry for myself as there are so many who, unfortunately, do not even possess the basics of life here on earth.
Yes, I wish I had never gotten breast cancer (who doesn't?). I'm fortunate it was "caught early."
I love and am loved. I just cannot tolerate anyone's pity.
Thats exactly how I feel, I dont mind people knowing I have or had cancer but dont treat me as weak and to be pitied.
However I do think that most people don't know what to say. It makes them uncomfortable. I guess a platitude is better than running away screaming!